Andy's Glasses

Sometimes statistics is stupid and pointless but sometimes it serves a valid and useful purpose. I’m not talking about political analytical numbers, that’s all bollocks, similarly drug trials, who needs ‘em? But they did a big analysis about take-out food. Now that is important. And exceptionally interesting.

Mainly because this ‘fish’n’chip nation’ is losing its love of its signature dish. Which is so incredibly British that it can now only really, authentically be made by Greeks, Turks and Bangladeshis.

Unsurprisingly, or possibly very surprisingly, take-out preferences are generational. Old people still love fish’n’chips, the young would rather have pizza or Chinese. When I was 64 I was far less likely to eat fish’n’chips than the moment I turned 65. Amazing. The things I didn’t know about myself, phah! My kids never order fish’n’chips and Lila and Joey will probably never know what it ‘was’. Like ‘spam’. (The sort-of-food, not the email variety).

Even more bizarre is that those who wished us to leave the European Union, the ‘Leavers’, are far more likely to get fish’n’chips than us ‘Remainers’. Possibly because they’re generally less aware of life’s realities than we are, possibly because they’re fatter, or maybe just because they like fish’n’chips because “iss Britttish, innit!!!”, I really don’t know. The statisticians didn’t delve that far. I may apply for a grant for further study.

Indian food, my own personal fave, came out in the middle. Which upset me. Although we never in fact get an Indian take-away, nor really many others. That’s generational too, cos the kids do.

The study mentioned neither demographics nor geographical considerations. Like, if you live in Shoreditch you can get 472 different varieties of food, from Thai to Tanzanian, from Chinese to Chechnyan, from Pizza to Patagonian Lamb. Whereas if you’re in Burnley, the options will be more limited. Chinky or Coorreh, pizza or pies. The rich will eat differently to the poor. They always fucking do. And its delivered by horse-drawn carriage rather than a moped with a box on the back.

I think we actually need more studies on this subject. And I’m going to volunteer for the eating part.

Happy Wednesday

A xxxx

When someone near and dear dies you need a bit of comfort. At the very least. Even if its a very very old person who no-one could work out how they’d lived so long in the first place. It doesn’t matter. Someone loved and cherished is no longer with us; send in the hugs. All cultures do it and have done since 10,000 BC when Raquel Welch’s husband got mauled by a sabre-toothed tiger and barely made it back to the cave in his blood-soaked loin cloth before passing forth unto the next world. The mechanics of mourning vary but in essence its just about routines, rituals, customs which have evolved to soften the blow. Not make it go away. Not pretend it didn’t happen. For those you need a Ouija board or some vile and exploitative chancer who has ‘heaven’ on speed-dial. But just to soften the blow and enable acceptance. That’s what we all need.

For Jews it is a wonderful and slick process. Probably because its the one I’m so familiar with. But also because it involves a lot of eating. Mainly cakes. Danish pastries. Rugele. Biscuits. A lot of eating. Someone has died: take food! Which is similar but not identical to ‘a child’s been born: take food’ or even ‘nothing’s happened: take food!’

So my lovely old dad was buried on Friday, 42 hours after his final breath. Not a record but another stellar performance. And then we enter ‘shiva’. Which is Hebrew for ‘seven’. As, traditionally, the immediate mourners sit in low chairs for 7 days and everyone comes to visit them, bring Danish, offer comfort and then you say prayers in the evening to remind God to look after the Newbie. But we opted to ‘sit shiva’ for just four days, which ended last night. And due to the weather, we decided to have the wonderfully cross-cultural-sounding: shiva al-fresco. Which is a bit like a 2-day garden party, but with prayers.

And everyone comes to pay their respects and offer words of comfort, of love, of anything of a nice nature. People my dad owed money to, or had really wronged badly, stayed away. Though I don’t think there were any. And if there were: fuck ‘em, they would have deserved it. And its cross generational with our friends and family, the girls’, and a few of my dad’s mates, really really old ones, who’d made the long trek to do the right thing. It is, in short, quite lovely. We bought 100 bottles of water and over the two evenings, most went. And some of the whisky, as its traditional at such times to offer a ‘l’chaim’, which means ‘to life’ and you need no further explanation than that.

And then, just as it was all ending and people were drifting away, a truly amazing thing happened. After 6 weeks of drought, it started to rain. And I just wondered if that was my dad’s final joke? Or if God was so pleased with the New Boy that he rewarded us. Either way, its good.

Happy Tuesday

A xxxx

It just goes to show; never say never. Salman Rushdie, the author, thought he’d… outgrown?, outlasted? his fatwa, thought he was over it and then, Ka-baam!, he’s stabbed giving a lecture in upstate New York. Land of the brave (which he was), home of the free (which he hadn’t been since 1989).

Because in that year, way back in the 20th century, he wrote a book called ‘The Satanic Verses’. I’ve never read it. If I’m honest I find Sir Salman a touch pretentious in the wordage department, and many other departments too. But the book says things about The Prophet, Mohammed, which shouldn’t be said. In fiction you can make up shit about absolutely anything you like. Except that. The then Ayatollah of all of Iran issued fatwa against him, offering a reward for his death. Nice.

He went into hiding, lived a life protected and off the radar, pretty much ever since. Only coming out to attend the most prestigious of awards ceremonies or his own knighthood.

And yesterday he took to the podium to speak about ‘how America is the best defender of free speech’. Unfortunately some bozo leaped onto the stage and managed to stab him 15 times before they dragged the man away. In terms of reaction times, that seems pretty slow, but the nature of knife attacks in these ‘orible times is just that. Fast and frantic and repeated. I just did a dummy run and managed 15 ‘stabs’ in 4 seconds. Poor Mel. So maybe I’m being harsh on the protection services who are never far from Mr Rushdie.

Where I really should save my harshness for the Ayatollahs. Because where else does a state AND religious leader choose to not merely condone murder but to actively encourage and in fact demand it as your duty? And people wonder why they don’t want Iran to have nuclear capability?

Happy Saturday

A xxxx

My lovely old dad died on Wednesday. And people ask: ‘was it sudden?’, to which I reply, ‘no, its taken 97 years’. Because he died of old age. It all just packed up. Slowly, gradually until over the last couple of years he had virtually no sight, very poor hearing and was ‘mobile’ with a walking frame for any distance up to 25 yards.

He was a truly remarkable man and a truly wonderful man. Everyone said so. But unlike in the case of 97% of deceased, this time they actually meant it. He loved talking to people. All people. Especially ones he didn’t know. At the funeral today two women turned up who he used to meet in Tescos for coffee on Wednesday mornings after some chance encounter at the checkout one day. He spoke to both regularly even during covid and in his care home. As he did with numerous friends of 50, 60, 70 years.

He used to call in to LBC radio. Normally, in his 80s, to tell Nick Ferrari how whichever incumbent Tory prime minister was a disgrace to the party and needs to move far more to the right wing to regain any validity. ‘Morris from South Woodford’ was just the mouthpiece of someone engaged in every facet of life, from his children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, arts, music (up to and including Glen Miller), everything.

As his sight deteriorated from macula degeneration he still read his Daily Mail every day, ‘stretched out’ on his iPad and still with a magnifier. Then, about 4 months ago he cancelled his Mail subscription and told me ‘he wasn’t interested in politics any more’.
And I’m like, WTF???? It’s like a lion telling you he’s giving up meat. But as his hearing too was failing and even Alexa could no longer help, it was just too difficult to keep up. I now realise, the beginning of the end.

His physicality was compromised by back and knee problems until, other than his sharp-as-ever mind, there was nothing left. That mind had no outlet, nor much input.

Last Sunday I visited him and he ran me through all his paperwork, all his files, all the key addresses. Basically a to-do list for ‘when it happens’. Because he knew. He felt it. Building up, painlessly but inexorably, so he put everything in order, as he always did. He was neither fearful nor unhappy about the inevitable but pragmatic to the end.

Wednesday my brother and I ‘got the call’. “Come in, I think you should be here”. He went back to sleep after getting showered and dressed and, basically, wasn’t waking up. I don’t think he wanted to. So we sat, we spoke to him, we held him, and he slept, but aware of our words by his minimal responses, nods. And at 3 o’clock, I was holding his hand as he took his last breath. It was a lovely, painless, peaceful end to a wonderful and long life. No-one could ask for better. Well they can ask but they ain’t gonna get it.

I was dry-eyed and at peace with it. Sat with him for a while. You know, just in case. Then I went to tell someone.

And that’s when the problem started. Because whoever I spoke to told me how lovely he was. The other residents, the carers, the managers and directors, how lovely, how polite, so nice and helpful and considerate and… lovely. And I’m supposed to remain in manly cool mode with all that? I had entered some kind of ‘emotional meltdown’ without even knowing as I had sat tearless in his room. And the trigger was niceness. People being nice, people saying nice things about him, how much they loved him.

After a really protracted ‘niceness’ session with the care home’s management team I was blubbing for all I was worth. And I said to my brother: ‘I’m fine, if only they wouldn’t be so fucking nice!’ Insult me, abuse me, anything but be nice. Please.

Rest in Peace, Moishe, our hearts are with you.

A xxxx

We all love a good book-burning, there’s no doubt about that. Standing at Oxford Circus round a great big bonfire in which great works (phah) of literature turn slowly to ashes as we all warm up and sing ‘gin-gan-gooly’ type songs. Bonding. As the Brontë bindings burn. Even though its August and hotter than the fires of hell virtually all the time at the moment. And there’s a good argument to be made that we need more fires. Yet it has been revealed that kids at universities are reading… books!! Particularly subversive in this respect are students of English. And in those books one can find… horrible things! Sexism. Sex. Racism. Xenophobia, transphobia, anti-Semitism, anti-working-classism, Islamophobia, nationalism, war-mongering and things guaranteed to offend or upset virtually everybody. So the universities want to get rid of various books which, they view, are particularly offensive.

A movie came on the tv the other night. Can’t remember what, I wasn’t actually watching, but I glanced up from a rather challenging Sudoku just to see the ‘advance warnings’. You know, ‘may contain scenes of sex, violence or crimes against football’ type of thing which are essential. To protect… errrr… from… errrr… whatever. And the message said ‘contains attitudes from the period’. As a warning. Which is odd, because every single film ever made contains ‘attitudes from the period’, unless its set in the future, like Blade Runner, and no-one knows what the attitudes then might be. Or Terminator. Because do robots and cyborgs have ‘attitude’? Interesting…

So the question is: how much fucking protection do we need from fiction? Does fiction even have the right, either written or on film, to portray reality, if that very reality might possibly offend someone, somewhere in the world, just a little bit? They’ve banned A midsummernight’s dream at one university. For ‘classism’. What about Downton Abbey then? Or The Queen??? Can’t get more class discriminatory than them. And Shakespeare, FFS. The most brilliant playwright ever and yet wrote about a time when a woman had to dress as a man if she wanted to work or be taken seriously. Well, you know what? IT HAPPENED. It was 500 years ago. Its allowed to have happened. That in no way reduces Merchant of Venice to a racist, sexist, deeply misogynistic treatise about the virtues of anti-semitism.

History happened. In the way it happened then, not as we’d like it to have happened now. You’d hope someone at a university might get that. Or the bloke on tv with the warnings. Otherwise, whilst we’re being revisionist, can we do anything about a few football match scores which caused me great upset and stress? And still do!

Happy Wednesday

A xxxx

Do you like cauliflower? That’s the question. I can’t answer for you. Not this time. As a kid I would run out the house if my mum cooked cauliflower, the smell revolted me, wouldn’t get anywhere near my plate. And then… something changes as you start shaving, when you change from little squirt to Man and Superman, and not just around your testicles. So I started to like cauliflower. Broccoli too, previously verboten!!! then became something I could eat. Brussels sprouts. Hated ‘em, now I adore them. Go figure.

Then, about 10/12 years ago, I went to a restaurant in Tel Aviv called Abraxis. And my life changed. Because they roast whole cauliflowers in a way that no-one else can. And since then every Tom (Parker-Bowles) Rick (near enough, Stein) and Harry (Kane) bakes a poor facsimile of the definitive version.

Then about 5 years ago, Eyal Shani, the man behind Abraxis, opened a ‘fast food’ version of his restaurant, also and unsurprisingly, in Tel Aviv, called Miznon. Which is Hebrew for ‘counter’ or ‘bar’ or even ‘buffet’. And they also do the same cauliflower, and its still the best ever. But its half the price of in the restaurant. As it would be, the place has a total vibe of manic, loud, cheap, fast, wild and chaotic. Whilst not being ridiculously cheap or in any way chaotic. And before you think I’ve gone vegan on you, (shoot me now), as well as the cauliflower, there’s the chicken liver pittas which, quite frankly, would be my last meal before I’m executed. They cook a vast variety of ‘fast foods’, most wrapped in pittas and all amaaaaaazing.

Miznon opened branches in Paris, then New York, then two more in Paris (you can never have too much cauliflower) and now… London. Yippee and about fucking time. I went last night. And because we went early, there was no queue!!!! (Couldn’t work out if or how to book). Just cauliflowers. And chicken livers. And wonderful things. With almost the same vibe as in Tel Aviv but, being England (Soho is part of England, I’m fairly sure), with a touch of reserve about it.

Just go there. Now. You’ll thank me.

Happy Tuesday

A xxxx

We need to talk about Manchester United. No, we really do. I’m not one to gloat at others’ misfortunes nor use petty rivalries to mock the afflicted, and especially after just one match played so far in this new, fresh-start, begin-as-you-mean-to-go-on, state your intentions, football season.

Though many will find the situation rather amusing. Mainly Liverpool fans but we can all enjoy the schadenfreude as the ‘world’s biggest club’ carry on just where last season ended up for them, which is, sort of, mid-sewer to just around the u-bend.

I caught about 20 minutes of yesterday’s game against Brighton and had to admit that the ‘under new management’ sign hadn’t created any improvement in their play. Their new manager, Eric Ten Hag has only been there about 5 minutes so may need more time to turn a bunch of semi-worthless, uncommitted, lacklustre show-ponies into a cohesive and bonded super-team. Unfortunately, new managers only get 4 minutes in which to win a trophy or they have to go. If the board is prepared to give them longer, the fans aren’t. Or vice versa. Even Alex Ferguson (blessed be His Name) took a good few years for his new system and new players to start bearing fruit. But that was in 1986 when everything was more tolerant, more patient with less of the more modern ethos of ‘win now or FUCK OFF!!’ There is no tomorrow, no next year, no building things slowly, no more. The Glazers are going to have to dig deep to keep things in some kind of order. Something that they’ve consistently been reluctant to do. Unless its digging into the bank of Man United to help themselves.

The other Manchester rabble don’t exactly look worse for having unloaded three world class superstars from their ranks. The absence of Raheem Sterling, Zinchenko and Jesus has seamlessly been absorbed by the arrival of Erling Haaland.

And I know its early days but Spurs looked good on Saturday. Next weekend at Chelsea may prove more difficult but, so far, after a full 90 minutes (plus stoppage time) of the new season, I’m well on board.

Happy Monday

A xxxx

The two most important days in the football league season are opening day and the closing day. So why is more importance given to the league table after the closing day than the first day? It’s wrong. It’s discriminatory, random, rude and not nice. Therefore I’m starting a petition to use the table from the first day, as above, as the absolute, ultimate and final assessment of greatness, victory and best-est-ness. And not just because we’re above Arsenal, but because we’re above EVERYBODY!!!!!

Amazon’s such a shit company. They’re never going to succeed. Ok, they sell a few bits and bobs, own half of the known universe (and are building rockets to sort out the rest), but they remain the most annoying of companies.

I had an awful realisation yesterday. I’d run out of tennis balls. Holy shit!!! I have hundreds and hundreds of them, and now, my cupboard is bare. And I need a new canister. Because playing at my standard, we need a “new balls” situation at least every 3 months. I googled them and up comes Amazon, first, cheapest, free-est delivery, fastest and fucking annoying-est. Ordered my few dozen and went to check out. Which is where the problem started.

YOU NEED AMAZON PRIME!!!! It told me.
Actually, I don’t. We have it on Mel’s account and I’d use that if I needed it now. So no, press the tiny little, afterthought button thingy that says ‘continue without Prime’, once you find it, way down low.

And it took me the checkout page which informed me I was on Prime, even though I wasn’t, and had to ‘find the way out’. Then, obviously, it could tell I was really interested so offered me the Prime credit card. The Prime t-shirt, coffee cups, underpants. Which I dutifully rejected. And went to ‘pay’.

Just in case I’d changed my mind and total attitude to Prime since the last time I rejected it, I was offered it another 6 times before my payment was accepted. And, rejecting each one as it was presented, I finally reached the ‘thank you for your order’ page. Eventually. That was too hard. Not ordering, that’s easy. Ordering without being kidnapped by Prime. But, phew!

I later checked my emails. The first one: ‘welcome to Amazon Prime!’

Noooooooooooo!!!!!

I immediately went and cancelled it, because its free, but only for a month. Cancelling is not easy. “Are you sure???” “These are the benefits you’ll LOSE!!!” “Don’t you just want a reminder before renewal???”

So a brief message to Jeff Bezos and Amazon Prime:

FUCK OFF, WILL YA?!!!!!!

Happy Sunday

A xxxx

As there’s no more Women’s football on, we’ll just have to make do with the start of the Premier League Season today. For men. A poor and second rate substitute for the ‘real thing’. We all love the game in which babes run round in sports bras bouncing up and down and the goalies are all broken. But that’s over. So we’ll just have to make do with the boy’s game today. Ok, Arsenal played last night but only because no-one cares about them. The real season starts today.

But my mind is troubled elsewhere. I mean, its in my head (I think?) but its on the verge of war. Which is troubling.

Whilst the Ukraine/Russia thing is still going on, we’ve all become inured to the senseless devastation perpetrated by the Ruskis to the point where its always a bit down the news now. It comes on after the heatwave, just before the Commonwealth Games bit, with Rishi and Liz commanding top slot now, followed by the hose-pipe bans.

Until Nancy Pelosi stepped off a plane in Taipei. And then the world shook.

The speaker of the House of Representatives decided, pretty unilaterally as it turns out because no-one else wanted her to go, to visit Taiwan. Where all her fridges have been built. Most of her radios. All her silicon chips and a few cuddly toys she bought for grandchildren (the ones filled with nails and broken glass).

But she underestimated the scale of her decision. Because she is the third most biggest big-thing in America, after useless Joe and his VP, this is seen as a ‘trip by America’ to Taiwan. And although Taiwan enjoys a sort of democratic independence, it transpires that that is a mere illusion, verging on delusion. Taiwan may pretend independence and democracy but, according to China, IT IS AS CHINESE AS CHOW FUCKING MEIN!! And belongs totally and absolutely to China and no-where else.

Nancy went where no other world leader or even Speaker of other Houses has been for decades because to visit Taiwan is to acknowledge it as independent. Which will piss China off royally. As it has done. To the extent that they’re bringing all their toys into play. The missiles, the bombs, the warheads, the whole, quite literally, ‘shooting match’. A match they would probably win, it must be said.

I’m not saying that making a point of a solid stance with Taiwan is not a good ideological point, it emphatically is, I’m just saying that you don’t poke the bear. Unless you’re so old that you don’t really care about the consequences of your actions. Like Nancy. Or you’re a bit dim and didn’t appreciate the furore it was likely to cause. Like Nancy.

And now its my problem.

Come on Spurs!!!!

A xxxx

I used to eat a lot of McDonalds. Food mainly. Cheeseburgers particularly, but not exclusively. And by ‘a lot’, I mean by my standards of ‘a lot’, not yours. I mean ‘a lot’ starting at a baseline of ‘way too much’ and working up to ‘a lot’ from there. Because of my fortunate metabolism (bless you, Father) I don’t put on weight. So I never have to do that most awful of things, ‘resist temptation’. Don’t think I could. I wannit, I eat it. End of. So if you didn’t hate me before, and I’ve given you so much opportunity, you should do now. And thus, due to the sheer convenience and addictive value of McDonalds, I would pig out 2 or 3 times for lunch every week, and always a trip with the girls at the weekend.

And then they invented ‘cholesterol’. Bastards. And ‘my life changed’. It wasn’t ‘that high’ but a little and so I adopted a lifestyle change and went cold turkey on Maccy-Ds. In fact if they offered cold turkey that would have saved me, but they don’t. There’s not sufficient fat in it to find a home under the Golden Arches. So I stopped. Pretty much altogether. (The McDonalds in Fleet Street has since closed forever, and I feel in some way responsible. Just not a very big way.) Other than ice cream. Because their ice cream is simply wonderful and can’t be that high in fat, can it? I don’t know, don’t care, never researched it. And about once every 3 years Mel & I will be in some far away land, hungry, hot and Google translate can’t cope with that dialect of Hindi, or Eastern Japanese and we need the comfort of knowing its all safe and clean-ish and doesn’t need thinking about. And we succumb.

Yesterday we took Lila and Joey to see a kid’s ‘show’ at a theatre in Leicester Square. So we went for lunch. And thought… ‘hmmmm, what about McDonalds?’ So we had to contact their parents to ask permission, check with social services, consult three doctors and an obesity clinic and get everything signed off with lawyers before you can actually enter one of ‘those places!!!’ Did they like it? To a degree. Loved the nuggets, disappointed with the ‘toy’. Did I like it? Never a doubt.

Happy Friday

A xxxx